I’m a highly sensitive person and that means that I make a lot of enemies, most of whom do not know how much their bad behaviour has affected me.

When I’m trying to concentrate on a task at hand, all I can think about is what wrong they did to me and how evil they are. I obsess about them to the point of hatred, which isn’t good, I know that, and I am trying my best to let go of the pain.

The reason I thought of writing this post is because I read the following in the book ‘The Power of Your Subconscious Mind’ by Dr. Joseph Murphy :

Some people in the world are difficult. They are twisted and distorted mentally. They are malconditioned. Many are mental delinquents who have become argumentative, uncooperative, cantankerous, cynical, and sour in life. They are sick psychologically. Their minds have become deformed and distorted, perhaps because of experiences they have had in the past. What do you do when you have to deal with someone like this? The temptation is to turn their negative energy back on them in the form of dislike. Strive instead to “return good for evil”. This creates an armour that keeps their difficult and unpleasant attitudes from affecting you, and your transmission of compassion and understanding will set in motion the process of changing them.

When I read the above-mentioned paragraph, I had two thoughts.

First, I realised how wrong I was in my dealings with difficult people – I always returned anger for anger, and that did not give me any peace at all, instead all it did was destroy my peace of mind.

My next thought was – I don’t want to become like those difficult people, ever! I needed to forgive them, in order to free myself from the chains of bitterness that were destroying my life.

It takes a lot of courage to forgive someone who has done you wrong. But the truth is, bitterness and resentment are not easy to deal with either.

Most importantly, remember to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, you do not need to hold on to the guilt forever. You may have hurt others, but it’s never too late to change and be good to those around you.

These are two quote collages on forgiveness I had made when I was suffering from depression a few years ago. Do read them completely :

If you are a spiritual person, then do read this prayer I read on Pinterest a few days ago :

Do not let the pain others have inflicted on you prevent you from leading a happy life.

Be the bigger person, forgive them, bless them and let go of the pain. Trust me, it’s worth it in the end.

Thank you for reading! Stay blessed!


54 thoughts on “Forgiveness.

            1. If we both ‘chup’ then how in the world will we reply? ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
              Haan I know. It happens. I’ve been there too. It hurts, but the pain will lessen with time. You aren’t listening to me only! ๐Ÿ˜ก

                    1. No! You! ๐Ÿ™„
                      You are a ๐Ÿ‘น + a ๐Ÿคก = Monster clown. ๐Ÿ˜ˆ
                      Gosh, I’m speaking in emoticons, how lame. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

                    2. Waah. Law abiding citizen. Proud of you! ๐Ÿ˜ But this means that you’ll be stuck in the ‘traffic’ for a lot more time. Make your decision, Banter. ๐Ÿ˜Ž

                    3. Hehe okay. Then stay calm, coz the traffic is a pain.
                      (I would be yelling at everyone if I was in your place. I hate ‘traffic’ – the actual one and the one we’re talking about.) ๐Ÿ˜

                    4. I’m very soft spoken, at least when I’m outside, so my yelling can never be heard. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
                      Okay baba, you curse in silence. But take care of yourself, okay? ๐Ÿ˜Š

  1. Very helpful. It’s very easy to hurt others but when the same goes for us, it is intolerable. We don’t realise the ‘evil’ side that comes up when we speak against someone in a hoax.
    It’s truly said, “only the bearer know how the shoe pinches”
    Forgiving someone is a difficult art which everyone should be keen on to master. The quotes too are very powerful and speak for thousands of us. Thank you for sharing, Ellen.

    1. I agree, Priya. It’s so easy to hurt, but so difficult to suffer wounds.

      Thank you for reading and providing such beautiful insights. God bless! ๐Ÿ’›

  2. A very wise post,Ellen. I have not read the book but I have heard itโ€™s really good as shows the wondeful line you quoted. Some years ago, i have been betrayed in a really serious situation by one of my best friends and I have kind of forgiven her but I think I can never forget the incident and it will never leave my mind. Anyway, thank you for this post๐Ÿ’•

    1. Thank you, Ramyani. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’›
      The book is really nice, makes us realise a lot of things we never thought about before.
      You were really a good person to forgive your friend. Yes, it’s important to remember the lesson learnt, but sometimes replaying the incident causes me to get even more bitter. ๐Ÿ™ˆ

      Thank you for reading! God bless! ๐Ÿ’›

      1. Well, many might disagree with me but I believe in giving a person taste of his own medicine rather than waiting for karma to do the same. This might not apply in all scenarios. But for max it does.

        1. I’ve tried it. Too many times. It’s only led to more bitterness and hurt.
          And I being highly sensitive feel even more hurt when I hurt others. ๐Ÿ™ˆ

  3. I have read almost all your posts and some of them twice, i deleted that post, i hope, that you will stay who you are. I read that you deleted many of your accounts because of other people online, you shouldn’t. I did mistake, i over reacted in to one of your posts, as i already said i’m really sorry, i shouldn’t, about the toilet and hands it was sarcasm (maybe not the good one)๐Ÿ˜i already wrote few other comments where, i was trying to explain for you how sorry i’m for my over reaction๐Ÿค—I hope to get the answer from you. Now i know you didn’t meant to hurt anyone, but it was still painful, so i felt like i have to hurt back and it was very wrong, post is gone bad feelings as well, at least from my sideโค๏ธ

    1. I’m really sorry that I hurt you. For the record, the plagiarism post wasn’t about you. It was just a stupid observation which I wrote when I was bored. I had even ended that post with ‘why am I even bothering about this?’, which showed that it was meant to be funny, not hurtful. ๐Ÿ˜

      But sometimes misunderstandings happen. I totally understand why you reacted that way and it’s really okay. โ˜บ๏ธ

      I never thought you’d ever read my posts again. ๐Ÿ˜ Thank you for your kind comments. You’re really a nice person and I always said that. God bless. โ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ’›

      1. I was always reading, but there was no possibility to comment before and first post where i could write my first comment ever was the one about plagiarism๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‚

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